When someone you love has dementia
Two things tend to happen at once.
The conversations get harder. The repeated questions, the moments where you lose patience and feel bad about losing patience, the small daily decisions you didn't expect to have to make. The practical weight of caring for someone whose brain is changing.
And the relationship starts changing too. You begin to grieve them while they are still here. This is called anticipatory grief. It is the loss that runs alongside the love and the ordinary Sunday afternoon. Most carrying it have nowhere to put it.
This is where I work. On both halves of it. The conversations, and the grief that runs underneath.
I work with daughters, sons, siblings, couples, anyone who loves someone with dementia and wants to do it without losing themselves along the way.
The Dementia Family Session
A 90-minute session, online, built around your parent's specific presentation and your situation, whether you're coming alone or bringing siblings into the conversation.
Some families come early, when things have only just started to shift. Others arrive at a sticky point, when something clearly has to change. The session follows whichever is true for you: the conversation itself (why certain questions shut things down, how to talk in ways that don't rely on memory, what's happening neurologically and why that matters practically), or the harder practical question of what needs to change so this is sustainable. There's room too for how your own nervous system reacts in these moments, and for the grief, if grief is what's there.
You'll leave with clearer ways to talk to your parent, tools you can use that same day, somewhere to put down what you've been carrying alone, and often a different relationship to the guilt.
£125
Once you’ve chosen a time, using this link I’ll email you with payment details and a short intake form. Your session is confirmed as soon as payment is received.
Other ways I can help
Some families need more than one session. Some want support across a sibling group. Some are facing a specific decision; a care home move, a diagnosis conversation, a change in behaviour they don't know how to respond to. And sometimes what's most needed is simply someone who knows the dementia support landscape well enough to cut through the confusion and point you towards the right help in your area. Employers sometimes fund this support too, for staff who are managing caring responsibilities alongside work.
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“Laura helped me and my siblings see what was really going on with dad and how to respond in ways that actually helped all of us."
— Lisa